Words work. My friend Lawrence Lanoff, author of The Language of Lust, likes to say “sex happens in the body, eroticism happens in the mind”. And it’s true. With women, unlocking her sexual imagination is the most powerful component to physical intimacy. Frankly, it is what will make her think of you as the best she’s ever had.
Language is your way in to her mind and into her emotions. Words stimulate the imagination and create a space to explore fantasies. Language is the ultimate sexuality hack.
Understanding the basic principle behind the language of lust means you don’t need to know what she likes or what she doesn’t like. There are universal truths that are basically guaranteed to work on any woman if you do them right.
Make Her Desire You
Here’s the deal…nothing makes a woman feel more sexy than knowing how turned on she is making you. Verbalizing your desire validates her and in turn, makes her desire you more.
And when you confidently tell her how she’s affecting you and give her permission to be sexually uninhibited, you elevate your sexual status to Rock Star in her eyes.
Winning Phrases to Use
Women like to feel adored…and they also love knowing that just their very essence fills you to the brim with desire. And sure, that sounds a little like sexual objectification. Yet when done the right way, won’t offend her. I promise.
Tell her things like…
- Good lord you are sexy. Do you have any idea how much you turn me on?
- My body is tingling all over thinking about what I’m going to do to you when I see you tonight
- Thoughts of you have me so distracted today. I’m thinking of so many deliciously naughty things…
She also wants to know you are tuned in to her needs, likes, and preferences. You show her that her experience matters by confidently asking questions to engage her imagination and share with you.
- What does it feel like when you are really humming with desire?
- What are some things that really turn you on?
- Have you ever been surprised by something that turned you on?
Lawrence shares a ton of Winning Phrases to use along with the dangerous Failing Phrases to avoid at all costs in his program.
Listen, there is a plethora of bad advice out there for guys like you. Some of it downright slimy, manipulative, and unethical. A smart guy knows there has to be a better way. Check out the Language of Lust guide my friend Lawrence put together for men like you… Read more…